When you start being clingy or needy in a relationship, it’s likely only a matter of time before your partner starts to pull away. And the moment you notice your partner withdrawing or losing interest, you become even more needy and attention-seeking.
It’s a vicious circle. And it almost always gets worse with time.
Give yourself a moment and try to figure out whether this kind of behavior is potentially ruining your relationship or if you are smothering your partner with your neediness.
You can change your needy and clingy behavior. Wean yourself away from neediness and start being an independent and confident individual. Here are few things to help you not to stop being needy and clingy in a relationship.
Be mature and act like an adult. Respect your partner the way you want to be respected. If he needs space, respect his wishes and give him his privacy and space. Asking for space or time doesn’t mean he is pulling away. Everybody needs to recharge from time to time.
Maintain your own separate identity. Independent people understand that everybody needs some time of their own. Every couple needs to spend some time away from each other. It is healthy for your relationship and helps you maintain a sense of self and your own identity.
Maintain your separate identity. Also, when you are able to comfortably spend some time apart from each other, it indicates that both of you are secure in the relationship.
Don’t be dependent. Don’t depend on your partner to fulfill all your needs. Do not expect your partner to save you from the big bad world or take care of your feelings. Continue to fight your own battles and live an independent life.
Continue to enjoy activities and hobbies that you don’t share with your partner. Know that you and your partner are not going to enjoy all the same activities. Don’t stop nurturing your skills and interests just because your partner doesn’t enjoy the same things.
Be socially active. People tend to be clingy when they expect their partner to meet all of their emotional needs. Fill your need for conversation and companionship from more than one source, instead of waiting for your partner to come and rescue you from feeling lonely and bored. Have a well-rounded life.
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Be confident of your value to your partner. If you are being possessive, jealous or insecure in your relationship, take a step back. Being insecure, clingy, protective and mistrusting is a big turn off. It can destroy your partner’s attraction, respect and love for you. People are usually attracted to emotionally strong and healthy people. Become aware of how you enhance your partner’s life to build your confidence.
Do not feel the need to be in constant touch all the time. If you are in constant contact with your partner through chatting, emails, texting or Skyping, you will have nothing to talk about when you see each other at the end of the day. Give each other some space and live your own lives.
Relax and stop over-analyzing. It’s been half a day since your significant other last texted you. Don’t start panicking, thinking that your partner is pulling away from you or has stopped caring about you. Stop putting so much pressure on yourself and on your partner.
Have a purpose in life. When you lack purpose in life, you tend to make your partner your life’s purpose. Your life starts revolving around your partner and this can be a big turn off for some people. They feel burdened to fulfill all your needs. Think about what your purpose is in life – and there can be more than one purpose.
Love yourself. Build strong self-love. Be comfortable spending time with yourself. Appreciate yourself and take care of yourself.
Enjoy doing things your way and being you. It’s only when you love and respect yourself that others can also love you.