A lot happens in Lagos whether you are on the road, in a bus, at your house or even in your own car. So today, as usual, I woke up as early as 4am, prepare for the day and set out. Between, today’s weather was so cold and it made a lot of sense.I set out and I went to the bus station to get a bus. I got the bus and we begin our journey to the Island. Before, I continue this story let me ask a question? How do you feel when you are in a bus, very early in the morning, trying to get some sleep and then some lovebirds are in front of you, gisting, cuddling and sharing their love story? And all you just want to do is to sleep before doing the whole 8 to 5.
Well, that happened this morning on my way to the office. These guys couldn’t let me sleep even when I decide to raise my head there again they were holding hands, cuddling and whispering. God, In a public bus??? I was angry. What!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am not against what they are doing because it is obvious they are in love but my point is, must they do that in an open space by inconveniencing someone else?
No doubt people are going to continue to kiss, hug, hold hands and make out in public. There may, however, be certain compromises that might help keep the peace between the other party.
Public Displays of Affection (or PDAs, as they’re generally referred to) according to Wikipedia are acts of physical intimacy in the view of others.
Effects on romantic relationships
Various studies have found physical affection to be associated with positive outcomes in romantic relationships. For instance, it has been related to the formation of attachment bonds and psychological intimacy. Physical affection has been categorized into seven different types including holding hands, cuddling/holding, backrubs/massages, caressing/stroking, kissing on the face, hugging, and kissing on the lips. Five of these behaviours, with the exception of caressing/stroking and holding hands, have been significantly positively associated with relationship and partner satisfaction.
Not in front of kids
Please, don’t do this whole PDA in front of children. Just take a moment to think of them.
Don’t use PDA to seduce someone
This might sound a bit weird and irrelevant. But people do indulge in an unwarranted level of public display of affection for attention! Dramatic much? You bet. Refrain from using PDA as a manipulative tool- that’s so not cool! Do not let others sin.
Make it look proper and acceptable
This is a basic step of public display of affection manners that you have to understand. Always remember to make it look adorable. Gentle touches are romantic and loving. Holding hands, with fingers intertwined is perfectly fine. So is the peck on the cheek, and perhaps a quick peck on the lips. When you’re in public, keep it simple. Keep it sweet. And save the sexier stuff from behind closed doors.
Do you have more guidelines or suggestion about the topic? Kindly drop it in the comment section below. Thanks. Tons of love.
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